It’s a new year and we are gearing up to start all over again!
We have made some changes. Back in 2018 we were so enthusiastic when we first found abc ivf, and we went through an IVF cycle and a transfer that became Freya with them. But now we haven’t been too happy. In the years in between they have become immensely popular, growing from one small clinic to a massive network of them. Their admin side clearly hasn’t caught up, and they seemed overwhelmed, not answering emails for weeks at a time, not relaying important information, making a zoom appointment with us and then not being there…
We did go ahead with the embryo transfer back in November as we felt that it was best to give them a chance, and to their credit it did get all sorted in the end as well, but it didn’t leave us feeling super confident. And when we asked for other options they themselves referred us to Create, their ‘mother’ clinic. So now we have changed clinics!
Overall though it’s a good thing that this is my fourth (!) time on the hormone merry-go-round by now, and that I know when to take what and how to schedule everything myself, as Create obviously do have their problems as well. I don’t know how much of this is Covid, people working from home and not communicating, but information has been slow to get back to us, sometimes getting lost altogether. They don’t seem quite as disorganised as abc ivf, luckily, but it’s close.
We are trying to keep everything more stress-free now, we’ll see whether we’ll manage.
I have also tried to gain some weight, which is a first in my lifetime! These last two years of breastfeeding and chasing Freya around meant that I was at my lowest adult weight ever. As I don’t get periods anymore either, I felt like my body might ‘like’ getting pregnant more if I have a bit more fat stores. I don’t know if this is scientific at all but it seems to make sense, especially with how sick I was and how much weight I lost in the first trimester of pregnancy last time.
And, different from the last transfers, we will now be transferring two embryos! Jo and I talked about this for ages. We want the increased chances of success, but then there is a not insignificant chance of twins as well. In the end we did a tarot reading about it and it was one of the clearest ones we have ever done. It told us to go with two in no uncertain terms, so we decided to follow. I don’t know whether the cards meant that we need to transfer two in order to be successful, or whether it’s really twins that are in our future, but am very curious to see what will come of this!
So for now we are hopeful that this time, maybe this time…